Love didn't save my marriage... at least in the terms of how this world loves. There is a difference between falling in love, staying in love vs. having unconditional love. The way this world shows love is based on conditions, people love until you mess up, make a mistake, people love you when your popular, people love new, but when you fall, when you say the wrong thing, when you hit a roadblock that love soon melts away.
My marriage wasn't saved by this kind of love, people would ask me "but don't you love each other." the fact is love wasn't enough. Love couldn't take my pain away, love couldn't make me trust again, love couldn't cover the damage that I thought had been done.
Love by definition is an intense feeling or deep affection. The problem with that definition is like any feeling it can change. When the world’s problems hit you, love isn't enough, because it changes you, changes your emotions and because it changes it’s unstable.
So what saved my marriage? It was more then love, it was agape love, the love of Christ, because that kind of love is a life changer, it’s impactful, its consistent, it’s a foundation not a feeling and ultimately it’s a sacrifice that has been perfectly demonstration by the Lord. It was this kind of love that I realized I had never had and never received. It was Christ's love that saved my marriage.
It was in Christ's love that I found healing, it was in His pursuit that I found change in myself, it was in his love that our marriage was restored.
